“it’s been a very strange thing to stare down a huge life change. I know that I will be a different person on the other side, but have no way of truly preparing for it or knowing what it will look like until I live it. I think about that children’s book We’re Going on a Bear Hunt and the phrase that’s repeated throughout: We can’t go over it. We can’t go under it. Oh no! We’ve got to go through it.“